I actually really like Pesach. Part of it may be that I get along really well with my cousins and in the years that we can, we get together for the sedars. We all sing and read, but at our kids end of the table we also chatter and tease each other and roll our eyes at the adults.
This year, for the one at my parent's house, my brother ended up leading it, which was fantastic because he made sure we kept going during the parts that my family just cannot seem to do at a normal speed (all the blessing stuff at the very beginning and right before the meal) and asked questions that actually required discussion.
Actually, in a lot of ways, I find that a certain amount of relaxation and comedy at the sedar doesn't keep it from being a religious discussion at all, and the less boring it is, the more likely we are to ask questions. Except for the part where pretty much everything we do at the sedar seems to be so we'll ask questions, which kind of defeats the purpose.
I'm not religious at all; my family is technically conservative and in our more immediate family I'm somehow the 'heathen', I expect because I didn't got to the Jewish high school and my college boyfriend wasn't Jewish. That, and I really just don't bother with any of the rules we're supposed to follow unless I happen to like it. I consider myself a cultural Jew, not a religious Jew.
I'm somewhat amused by your page numbering though; I swear in our Haggadot page 20 is the first glass of wine.
My family does the whole first half, then has dinner/dessert/afikoman, we do the birkat, the wines, and then sing a whole bunch of songs. We usually sit down at 7pm and finish by 10pm, which is probably even shorter than it sounds because our normal Friday night dinner (at which we do the candles/wine/challah but is more a family requirement than a religious requirement) usually takes from 6:30 to 9pm. Plus, the nice thing about having to follow the Haggadot is that we're less likely to get into arguments about politics and other things that make me have to skip dinners when I get way too frustrated.
But overall, I think I'm mostly lucky in that my family really does all get along really well. We have a good time together, and while sometimes it does get stressful to have to spend so much time together (although we didn't end up doing dinner three nights in a row this week since we all just skipped the shabbat dinner) it's not stressful because we don't like each other.
Yeah, sorry, I don't know how you ended up with my ramblings, but I'm hitting reply anyhow.